It being Autumn and it being the time of the year in which people are at their lowest; there seems to be a lot of arguing. At present, I’m passively enduring an argument between my sister and her boyfriend over the telephone. Which is a perfect introduction to the topic I wish to transcend today, that being the subject of: communication and of understanding.
The reality of communication and understanding has really very little to do with language and patience despite what anyone may try and tell you. It is far more simple than that, to do either of the two well, you need to understand yourself fully. Being able to see your own shortcomings and accepting them, then importantly knowing your true strengths with a pure honesty, is a good start.
I am fortunate enough to have witnessed many -many- arguments and from this I have derived my conclusion, that the person with the most agression is the person who least understands themself. Thusly, [as my sister raises her voice once again] those who listen when being shouted at, must understand themselves a little better. Now by all means, this does not mean that understanding yourself makes you be the person in the right, it merely suggest that you have little or less need to vex others to vent your frustration.
So why do people shout? Is it to make their point perfect clear to the other(s)? Perhaps show who is in control? Or maybe just a characteristic of an inferiority complex or weakness in the person who has no real valid point. Granted, my sister has been painting a grim story for me and others these past few days about how her boyfriend acused her of cheating on him; when she attempts to justify herself he hangs up the phone. Sure, maybe she is right, she hasn’t done anything wrong (recently), and he has no need to suspect anything of her given they’re about to move into one of the four houses they have bought together tomorrow. The need for shouting is for emergencies and moments of extreme physical distress, not a method of clarify facts to eachother.
Why can’t the world see this with any clarity?
p.s. Alex, I never shouted to you, ever.